And now I ride… because I’m cool like that

Getting back into activities you once enjoyed are like ANTI-Narc serum. Have at it!!!! Here’s someone who gets just how healing and powerful simply moving your body can get.

Me and Mo

When I was a kid I had an alter ego persona. Her name was DangerGirl. Obviously I was a superhero at the age of 4. I wore a cape and rubber boots. I flew everywhere and saved the world on my bike because it felt like flying and my cape would flutter in the wind.

Since that day, I always loved my bike. As a teen I would ride long on weekends. From Sherwood Park (a town east of Edmonton), through the river valley and into Downtown Edmonton for a lemonade at Churchill Square. I had power legs.

Then one day I stopped – I think it was because I had kids and it was a hassle.

Lately I have been seeing signs – clues if you will, about bikes. Everyone I know rides lately. Either for triathlons or because they like too. My girl friend rode in the MS…

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Around and Around and Around We Go… Punishment and Reward

Around and Around and Around We Go… Punishment and Reward.

 

Financial Tool

Once you are physically safe, financial safety is important too. I found this free resource and thought I would share — it’s specifically designed for survivors of domestic violence.

Moving Ahead Through Financial Management Curriculum helps survivors of domestic violence move from safety to long-term security.

 

http://www.clicktoempower.org/financial-tools/curriculum-download.aspx

Dads, Uncles, and Grandfathers

When I was at the bottom, I was in SERIOUS trouble. Death was really close, or best-case-scenario: long-term hospitalization.

My dad stepped up – in a HUGE way – and I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to thank him enough.

I can’t help but grieve that my children don’t have a dad like that. If they were in trouble, he wouldn’t step up. He can’t. He doesn’t have the tools. And probably never will.

Thank GOD I can show my kids examples of other types of men — uncles and a grandfather — who would move heaven and earth for them.

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What matters is not the mere fact that we lived. What matters is the difference we made. – Nelson Mandela

Survivors of Narcissistic abuse can make a HUGE difference by tell their stories.  The similarities are frightening, as much as they are healing.

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“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”
― Winston Churchill

Leaving a Narccissist takes a tremendous amount of courage. You are not as weak as the Narcissist would have you believe.  They didn’t target you because you are weak. They targeted you because you are STRONG.

You have the courage to do this.

But you agreed

“But you agreed….. Yes you did…… Yes you did….. I heard you. You agreed.”

Saying that over and over doesn’t make it true. 

Good thing everything’s in writing now.